There is a lot of power in that one little word.
Last week I led my last workshop for Weight Watchers, having resigned my position last month. One last meeting and the topic was on our why. That word. Why.
I did a lot of thinking about that 3-letter word as I prepared for my last workshop. Why do we do anything? Why don’t we? Why do we start or stop something? How can getting in touch with our why help?
I wrote about finding my why last year (here) after realizing that my “why” was missing and that was part of what was holding me back. And now I had an opportunity to delve deeper into the why, the reason for what we all were doing on this journey to get to a healthier us. And deeper into the power of that one little word.
You see, the why…that reason, is what fuels us. It gives us the energy, the fuel we need to achieve what we have set out to do. Our why gets us to our goals.
And the why is different than the goal. The goal is what I strive for, my focus. But my why, well that is the whole reason for doing it, for working toward that goal.
And it hit me when I was preparing for that last workshop that a missing “why” is what makes New Year’s resolutions not work, at least for me. I have written and shared that I don’t set New Year’s Resolutions anymore because they just don’t work for me. I am not good at them. And now I realize why they don’t work for me. That word was missing.
New Years Resolutions were always the same—set them on New Years eve for the New Year. Lose Weight. Get Healthy. Exercise. And I set them for many years. Because that is what one does for New Years. I just did it.
But why? Why did I set those resolutions? What reason would fuel me? I set those resolutions without a reason, without the personal why that made them my own. The reason that meant something to me.
Setting a goal needs to be one that means something to me. One that is mine and not a goal someone else sets for me. And then I need to ask myself why? Why this goal? What does this look like for me, in my life? Why do I want this?
Our why is the fuel we need to move forward toward our goals. And setting a goal without a “why” is like driving a car on empty. Yes, we can get a few more miles down the road when the fuel light comes on, warning us we are about out of fuel. And then we stop. Our travel ends. Our progression stalls. We don’t get anywhere without more fuel.
That is what our why does for us. That is what my why does for me. My why is my fuel. Without it, I am not going far. And I won’t reach my goal. And sometimes I lose sight of my why and need to remind myself the reason I keep doing what I am doing, the reason I want to reach certain goals I have set for myself. When we have the fuel we need, the gas in our tanks, the why for doing this, well then, we can achieve anything we set out to achieve.
I can reach any dream or goal I set as long as I know why!
There is a lot of power in that one little word… why. What are your goals? What is your why?